TamilWeek, Oct 16 - 22, 2005
"The way it used to be"

by Captain Elmo Jayawardena

The gram sellers at Galle Face Green sold their ‘kadala gotu’ topped with ‘isso wade’
for twenty-five cents. The moviegoers at Savoy cinema came out; couples went to
Alaric’s for ice cream and families miserly budgeted for Chinese fried rice at Golden
Gate. Gunawardena opened batting for Tamil Union and Sunderalingam kept wickets
for the Sinhalese Sports Club. This was once nostalgic Sri Lanka on easy street sans
the raging war and the terrible turmoil; ‘The way it used to be’.

The ‘Yal Devi’ took the Madhu pilgrims and the ‘Ruhunu Kumari’ carried the
Kataragama clan. Marawila fishermen fished at Mulativ with the monsoon change and
Lever’s and Rickitt’s Sales Reps sold toothpaste in Jaffna and drank ‘Tal Raa’ whilst
bathing in the Keeramalai tank. The “Vale” cart used to come down Wallewatte and
the waiters worked double time at the Sarasvati Lodge. The differences were there
from the North to the South, but who cared? Nobody killed anyone. There was a life,
simple and in peace. Bala Tampo took the CMU on strike every year and the
Parliament changed colours every five years with mythological promises. That was
acceptable. The queues got long at the CWE to buy “jumping fish” and the bread
prices leapt like high jumpers. Those were our big problems.

The smiles were there too, affordable to the all and sundry, beat shows and big
matches, sports meets and school carnivals, all within a ten-rupee budget. Fashion
wise, the pinnacle was the CR Havies match at Longdon Place; the Suesetts and
Claudetts were there, dazzling in mini skirts, making their best attempts to get
partnered to go to the Coconut Grove and jingo and jive to the Jetliners. Some made it
to Akasa Kade too, to eat egg hoppers and hold hands and become more naughty
whilst pretending to be watching the ships lights at the Colombo habour.  

There was peace; it was a long long time ago. That was before the Morris Minor taxis
changed their English alphabet number plates.

Then came the carnage. Who’s to blame? Don’t waste time, that’s kicking the moon
and corralling clouds. We all know better. We are all to be blamed, some for cheering
and others for their silence.

It has always been ‘our soldiers’ – but it is their war.

The guns are silent now and the talks go on and hope seeps slow like a weed-clogged
wave. If the Gods are kind, we’ll have peace.

Let it lie there.
‘North and East must be separate’ ‘Don’t give this’, ‘can’t have that’, ‘autonomy? What
nonsense?’ Such passionate phrases bellow from borrowed patriotism. ‘My son has to
study’, ‘No no, not to join the Air Force’, ‘Army? Are you mad?’ The same voices add
the contradictions. ‘We must continue to fight at any cost’. Brave words, quite cheap
too when rights and wrongs are just “whys” sprouting out from empty opinions on even
emptier forums.

Try telling all that to mothers who buried their sons or children who pray for their
missing fathers. Voice it to a legless ‘Boy’ from Velvatathurai or a sightless soldier from
Devundara. Or maybe to a lover who lights a candle for some forgotten fighter buried
under swollen earth, too poor even for a memorial.

What does it matter to which side they belonged? They paid the price, we didn’t. They
shed the tears, we didn’t.
Let us then wish, nay, that’s not enough, let us pray, to all the Gods in creation for
“The way it used to be” to return.
Or…. let us be silent.

We owe that much to the one’s who died nameless.

Captain Elmo Jayawardena:

Capt. Elmo Jayawardena resides in Singapore where he is a pilot with Singapore
Airlines as an Instructor Captain in SIA 747s and a Crew Resource Management
Instructor.

He is also the founder of AFLAC (
Association for Lighting A Candle) International,
an approved government charity. His almost obsessive passion for empowering and
aiding the underprivileged of Sri Lanka has won him global recognition - he was
featured in Forbes Global in 1999 and in 2000 and he won the coveted Reader's
Digest "Everyday Hero Award" for his humanitarian work.
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